well, the police just left AGAIN. He showed up without calling or anything to get his stuff he didn't take last night. I told him I would put it in the garage and he could take it when I got done doing that. He proceeded to bang on the door for about 2 minutes with the kids wondering what was going on and yelling thru the door he was going to call the police, then left. I text him about 5 minutes later to let him know his stuff was in the garage and to bring the police with him. He came back, and when I refused to let him have a walk thru of the house, he called the police. The police came, I told them that as long as someone was with him and he didn't take anything he wasn't supposed to like he did the night before, I did not have a problem with the walk thru. While they did that, I went thru the stuff in the garage gathering the rest of his stuff up and putting it in a pile. The one thing he was looking for and couldn't find in the house, I found in the garage. Absolutely stupid. The whole thing could've been avoided if he had simple text or call me to let me know when he was coming instead of just showing up and causing the scene. Luckily I had just put my D down for her nap right before the police showed up, but my S was still awake. And they both witnesses dada banging on the door and mama not letting him in. My neighbors all got to see him pack his crap up and then come back with TWO police cars. Thanks for being so civil about it a**hole.
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
YAY!!!! I'm done with my class!!!! Just have my clinicals left and I start them Friday!!! YAY!! I was alittle bit worried when I would be able to get them done. The first 10 in the class got to pick first and because I finished 6th, I was worried I wouldn't be able to get them done til next month. But no one picked the first round when I got there, so I picked it!!! This time next week I will have my program certificate and I will officially be a phlebotomist!!! I'm so happy!!
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
I had a couple people in my class that hated needles too! Didn't have a problem until we had our first lab where we had to start drawing on each other! Well, I start my clinicals today and I'm super nervous! They told us to think of it as a 4 day job interview! No pressure!!! lol And if finally hit me...I have a life without stbx!!! yay!!! I accidentally double booked myself for tonight. :-/ I have a candle party at a friend's house and then dinner with some girls from class. Then me and one of the girls are going to meet my SIL at the casino after dinner. I've never double booked myself like this! Of course, I can't remember the last time I had a life like this! lol
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
Ok guys, I'm having a rough time now. I'm spread too thin right now. I'm trying to give 100% to my kids. 100% to finishing my school. And now 100% to these stupid motions STBX is filing. The schooling has taken the place of taking care of my house, so I've been slacking on that alittle bit. The current motion is for Parenting Time. He's asking for every other weekend and one day a week outside of the marital home. I'm so glad he feels the need to have my children over the weekend with an ex-cokehead woman who likes to slap him around and in an apartment that has already been broken in to by her psycho exboyfriend on the same night that he ran over my STBX's motorcycle! Way to look out for the children't best interest! Because ya know, that's the type of environment that a 1 year old and a 3 year old need to be in! Way to go! ARRRGGGHHH! And this lovely motion...yeah, I received it in the mail YESTERDAY. And I have until TUESDAY to have my response to him in the mail. But I have to take it to the court clerk before I can mail it to him. So I get to go to the courthouse at 9AM Monday morning, hoping and praying that I am first in line, because I have to be 45 minutes away for my clinicals at 10:30AM. And if I'm late for my clinicals, they'll send me home as soon as I arrive, then I'm dismissed from the program! yay!!And ya know what he said when I asked if we could reschedule the hearing for the following week so I could have more time to prepare..."Nope, you stood your ground, now I'm standing mine." Isn't he just a great guy!!
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
Well guys, hope everyone has been doing good. I haven't been able to really be on here lately because of my clinicals. Which are going great!!! I'm actually working in a lab right now drawing patients' blood!! yay! Friday I got blood on all my draws...today, not so much, but it's the experience that matters! And I'm learning alot! As you can see from my previous thread that this weekend was not the greatest...Friday night was great, had a great time with friends. Saturday, not so much. Sunday was ok. I was able to go over to my MIL's and use her printer and have her proofread my response to the motion of parenting time and today she went and filed it with the court for me. I thank God for her because she has been so supportive thru all of this and has been able to help me with so much. STBX decided to go stay with the kids this morning while she went to the courthouse. We both were at her house at the same time, I was there dropping the kids off and he was there to stay with them. Didn't say much, but I showed him the new shoes I got D1. He had bought some for her a couple weeks ago, but they didn't fit her and so these were the one I got when I exchanged them. This was the first time we had seen each other since last Monday, I believe. Tonight, I got home from clinicals and the kids were crazy!!! So after MIL left, we chased each other around the house playing tickle monster. It was actually quite fun! Wore me out! Afterwards, I put them to bed and I layed with S3 for a little bit and cuddled. :-) He can be so sweet sometimes! About 8:30 STBX called...he knows S3 goes to bed at 8. So I told him he was already asleep. He said it was the first time he'd had a minute all day to call him because he was so busy. I said ok. He asked how my clinicals went. I told him fine. He asked how many draws I had, I told him. He asked again, how they were going, I said fine. He said ok. I said gotta go, bye, and we hung up. I know this is his response to me detaching from him completely. In the past when I tried detaching, he would start like this, wiggling his way in with little questions about how I've been doing and so forth. Before tho, it was all part of DB'ing. This time tho, I really have detached. As much as it sucks to be alone and not have someone to talk to about my day, I really don't want to talk to him about it. That's what my girlfriends are for!!! And you guys! lol Thank you guys so much for reading my rants!
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
Wow, STBX is moving fast...so he called tonight to talk to S3, just a few minutes after he went to bed. S3 was already asleep (he had a busy day and was exhausted). And when I told him he was already asleep, he started crying. I didn't fall for it, I went ahead and said bye and got off the phone. Last time he pulled the crying card was Christmas Day. He had left at the beginning of November 2007. We left to go out of state Dec 1. I detached as soon as I got out of state. He started asking how I was doing the week before. I fell for it. Started being nice back. Christmas Day he pulled the crying card and 'I want to kill myself because my life sucks! My marriage has fallen apart! blahblahblah" So I'm guessing he didn't get the response he wanted last night when he called and tried being buddy buddy with me. So he went ahead and pulled the crying card. Does he really think I want to continue with this!? The first time he did this I asked what was wrong, he said nothing, I pushed, then he said something about not being able to be with the kids and how his life is a mess because his marriage failed. I even had him come over and we talked about it. Then I held him while he cried, then I had him lay on the couch while I massaged his head to get him to calm down. I fell for it all 3 times. And that's not even counting the times he did it while we were still together and I busted him messing around online! Why does he think he can continue to manipulate me with emotions? I know I'm an emotional person, but seriously! This has gone on long enough! I mean, don't get me wrong, it's great that a man can show his sensitive side. But if feels like it's just a game to him. He knows if he cries, I'll react the way he wants me to. That's not being sensitive, that's being a jerk. arrrggghh!! Sorry, just had to get it out! I know he's going to always try manipulating me. That's what he does. I just can't wait to get to the point where it doesn't bother me so bad. Does that point ever come? Or do we just always pretend that it doesn't? On a good note, tomorrow's my last day of clinicals!! Then it's official, I'll be a phlebotomist!! yay!
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Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
Hey guys, so I'm officially finished with my clinicals....but I'm gonna go back next week for some more practice. Hope all is well with everyone. I need some advice. I have a friend of mine staying with me right now. Her bf of 3 years just broke up with her. They broke up for 2 weeks about 2 years ago. At that time, he said he wanted to make sure she was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. Anyways, this year, they got a place together and a dog. Yesterday morning, he bought a gym membership for both of them. Yesterday afternoon, he said he was unhappy and he didn't see them being together forever. I offered my spare bedroom to her and I've dog sat her dog many times, so I know he's comfortable here. But how should I go about this. Especially given my own sitch. I know I need to let her talk and just listen. But she's also been asking for advice and I'm not quite sure how to go about it. She's at a completely different stage than I am. Any ideas?
Me- 29 X - 30 M - 7.5 years Final April 2009 S - 2005 D - 2007
Don't make someone a priority who only makes you an option.
A wise fish once said...Just keep swimming...Just keep swimming!
