Stage 2.25

[istherehope]

Hi Sep and Daisy,

Thanks for checking in on me!

You are both right that I need to stop over analyzing. Really I do know this logically...I am feeling a lot better than I have been, but I do backslide emotionally from time to time for sure.

Daisy-I know everyone on the boards wants me to go away for a few days, but there are a lot of reasons why it isn't really the best option for me at the moment. It was fun for me, and GAL when my friend was around, but she has left for honeymoon, and it would be just me in her apartment. It's also a 45 minute walk after work, and it's not convenient or nice given the winter weather. It doesn't sound fun or happy to spend time there, so I would be doing it more to prove to H that I can. That said if something comes up like a weekend trip or something, I would take it for sure. It's just that for it to truly be GAL and PMA, I think I need to be doing it for the right reasons.

That said I promise that I am GAL on weekends! I make plans that don't involve H, and this includes spending time with friends. I do need to work on the PMA though. It comes and goes.

Thanks for the suggestion to list out the positives! OK I'll list them out now then will go back to look at a past thread like you suggested, very good idea :).

Positives:

*Staying in the house for nearly 2 weeks
*No R talks for almost 3 weeks
*Semi-frequent ML
*Small compliments from H
*H opening up about things more like work and feeling stressed
*Frequent joking around and laughing together
*Doing more couple like things together like errands and shopping
*No arguments since "living together"

Thanks again both of you!

ITH