I've been a little busy lately. Sorry I haven't been around. Seems like y'all are doing fine without me though It's fun to watch the progress.
Things are wonderful for me and my lovey. A lot has happened and yet not that much at the same time. Lol. I know that doesn't make sense. A lot of it is just build-up to the "main event" of moving in together. We are still trying to pull it all together.
Sunday we had a meeting with one of his Sergents about job opening and possibilities. That was good. He also introduced me as his wife which was amazing!!! I love hearing him say that. The meeting went really well and now my hubby is chasing down leads and looking around. It's hard not to get impatient somedays but I have to remember that he is holding out for a good job, more career directed so that we can build a future together and that is worth waiting for!
We see each other every few days. He actually stayed the night Saturday and went to church with me on Sunday which is wonderful. It felt so good to have him with me, I was kinda afraid it would be awkward but it wasn't. Felt like he had never left.
We did have a little spat via text the other day and I got really afraid but I just gave him space when he asked, apologized for my part, and we moved on. It great to know we can handle conflict, even if it is only small ones.
Today I had my fifth counseling session. I didn't want to go after the last one a couple weeks ago but I went and it was good. We talked about how far I have come and how to keep the changes going. She did have a couple things that I thought were interesting.
1. She thinks I should tell him that I want him to stay the night every Saturday so that we can go to church in the morning. Also just to have that intimacy of spending the night together. I am not sure this is a good idea because the bed here at my parents house is small and we don't sleep all that well or comfortable when he sleeps over so I am not sure I want to do it on a regular basis. Then again it will probably only be a few more weeks or a month so what is 4 or 5 nights? I will think about. The important advice here was to tell him what I want instead of asking. Because asking leaves room for a no. Whereas telling is a statment and does not leave room for argument. He could still turn me down. I don't know what he would actually say. I guess I will wait and see what I want to do.
2. She thinks it would be good for us to move semi-far away and start a new life together and make new friends together. She thinks it would be helpful for us to build a solid foundation. She was saying this when I was telling her that we are not sure what we are gonna do. Full time army, move to his city, stay here, go to Washington, etc. It's all up in the air and that is okay with me for now. I will tell my hubby what she said about this and see what he thinks. Neither of us really know what we want to do or where we want to go. It does make me impatient but I try to remember that is is good in the long run and also that we are very young and trying to find our way in life and at least we are doing it together.
I have my next, and possibly final, session in three weeks. We spaced it to give me and my hubby time to settle on some sort of plan. So hopefully by then something will be set. I'm just glad the session went well.
I'm just happy and hopeful in general. I really have come so far. The counseling, both MC and IC, has helped but when I think of where I am really learning and growing I think about you guys here on this board and all the advice and support you have given me over the past months. I wish I could thank you all in person for the wonderful influence you have been and continue to be in my life.
It's fun to watch the progress.
