My H was seeing a stripper for about 2 months before he realized that she just wanted his cash.
It is one of the most hardest challenges for me to get over yet.
I have learned however, that every time I would learn or hear about another fact about her it would only dissappoint me and make me feel more insecure.
She was tall, and gorgeous, and thin, with big boobs, and she was a bisexual/lesbian=(every guys dream). I am short and thin but kindof average, and I certainly dont want to offer my H another girl to meet us in the bedroom. So I dont compare to what he thought he wanted .
But he was the one that thought he wanted that until he realized he was not in love with her. And he then realized that he really did love me and missed me and he came back to me.
So I have decided that (a yr.and a half later) I will not bring it up again. I wanted to know at first. But take my word that it just hurts more.
You can learn from the general conclusions that you can draw on your own about their past R. But dont pry. It will not benefit you to know the gory details. I will never be a sexy stripper. But I will always be pretty, fun, caring, loving, and proud of my accomplishments.
So focus on you, and not his past. Dont bring things up again. Drop the topic and look forward to pleasing your H in new ways. You will feel rewarded for not being jealous and prying. You will have to trust that your H really wants to be with you and you only again. If he changes his mind later then you can deal with it then. But dont dwell on the past. Instead look to making a better future for you and your H. TIPPER
