It's not about you and even if he is thinking about you and the relationship it is not your problem. I want you to repeat that in your head like ten times a day "it is not about me, it is HIS problem"
You also need to stop trying to fix his problems. I.E the comp breaking. He is a grown man and can find a solution on his own. You offering suggestions is seen as controlling (I know that sounds looney but trust me, from one controlling wife to another) If he asks about the finances then you answer his question but stop trying to make his life peaches and cream and fix everything for him.
I still think it would be healthy for you to get away from the situation for a few days but you seem very against that. I think it would accelerate your results not hinder. But the choice is obviously yours to make.
I think you are doing well and that things have definatly shifted but whenever things start looking up you throw your DB skills out the window and then things crash and you wonder why. GAL and PMA!!! It's the only thing that is going to save this marriage. You can only change yourself so only focus on yourself.
I think you need to list out the positives as that seems to center your thinking. Maybe compare your current positives to the ones from a previous thread and see the difference. That always makes me feel good.
Keep it up, we are all cheering for you and here for you always!
