Heal and either move on or reconcile .... I want something better. I would like it to be with her.
That says a lot frank. It does not hurt to keep your options open. It would be easy to "kick her to the curb" but your attitude is one of compassion.
On the other hand, you should not stay in limbo forever either. If man-boy has upped and left her then she may "come back" as she did last time, only for the cycle to repeat. I know you know that, so enough said.
The most important point is that you seem to be focused on you and not the situation. That is wonderful. For reconcilation to work change is required on both sides and you are doing your part. If reconcilation is not in the cards by her choice you still come out ahead by working on you.
I am proud to have met you and I wish you every success wherever your road leads you.
