Perhaps he is hoping that time will sort it out with no need of action from him, or that I will finally crack and sort it out so he doesn't have to (this is a real possibility).
As you have said Julia, your H is an avoider. This is exactly what he is doing. Hoping that he won't have to do anything to push forward your circumstances because that would cause him discomfort so he avoids it. Gabe did the same thing with me. He initiated the D then dropped it on his end but was content to leave me hanging at the end of a fraying rope. As long as he had the carrot dangling in front of me, he didn't have to make any further commitments or choices in his own life.
Originally Posted By: JCJ
Dan, is moving in with her not showing commitment??
Not truly. It is an illusion of creating a deeper R without real ties. As long as he can't be pushed to M her because he is still legally M'd to you, he still feels safe.
Julia, I had lost track of your thread for a week and have just now caught up. I'm so sorry you are not getting any response from him to your very sincere email. It really bites that he is being that big a coward. I will hope for your sake that he is just digesting this and will contact you shortly.
Your GAL activities sound like so much fun! I wish I had time for some things like that. You keep them up and keep posting about them and I'll live vicariously through you, ok?
((((((((((((Julia))))))))))))))
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
