Another wife hit by the bomb #3

[Tawnya]

{{{PM}}}} thanks for checking in with me..I need to go read your thread..actually I probably should post there too..LOL..but I tend to hang here in the newbies

Hmm..well the lawyer thing was good and yucky..yucky only because I didn't want to go..LOL. Basically she said:

1) I will definitely get child support (obviously)

2) I am entitled to alimony, better if we come to an agreement about it without going to court, but that I could sue for it if I wanted, but the amount I would get each month would be roughly around 500ish..so, I think, if it comes down to it, I will tell hub that's what it should be and see what he says. All total, it could be around 800-1000 a month with child support and alimony (don't think my hub is expecting that LOL)

3) I actually COULD sue for alienation of affection (LOL love that NC law)..but it is suing the OW and some people have won some hefty sums..but I dunno that I would go that far..lots of legal fees, etc..but interesting bargaining chip if hub doesn't want to do the separation agreement amicably

4) The fact that he admitted to me verbally about the OW would hold up in court, along with his receipts for meals that he pays for both of them, which I would have as records on our online bank statement, tho he says I can't prove it, he would have to be questioned about them under oath and go from there, if it came down to it

5) The sad and interesting part is that unless I have more hours at this job or get another job, I probably can't afford the house very easily at the end of the year's separation, if it would come to that, but also hard to sell right now, not much equity in the house as we just moved in 1 1/2 years ago..so that's an up in the air topic that I'll leave there for now

6) The lawyer brought up another point that irks me, she said that, while daughter who will be 18 is out of the mix for child support, that the money hub will use as an extra house/apartment is money that won't be spent on her college (argh)...which is another annoying thought to add to the mix

I asked about hiring a PI, because alimony would be a pretty sure thing even more with proof, but she said it probably wouldn't be worth it unless I had $2000+ to spend on it, which I don't..

So..at least I know what's what, but honestly I don't feel much better in knowing..SIGH

Tawnya