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[JeffSTL]

Karen: As predicted, OW gave D8 a necklace/whistle for her birthday. She came home wearing it around her neck.

I get a kick out of your post some times like "OW is so fricking nasty" or "or just let her have it here and have it go missing in the near future"

You definitely want to save that whistle, I think it should be kept safe place so that whenever D8 goes over to her dads, she
will be able to take it with her.

Just checking in on you - keeping you in my prayers, I do follow your post envethough I don't chime in much


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M10.75 years
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[whatdidido]

Personally, I think the OW didn't give a thought to you or how you'd feel about it. But, if she did, she picked a whistle so that your daughter can blow it over and over and drive you nutso.

[karen43]

That's my thinking or maybe H had some input into it also. They gave the kids whistle/candy last week and he gave them flutes a month or so ago. I think there is a little bit of thought behind it. I can't imagine going through life trying to make people unhappy, but I guess some people do. Karen

[kat727]

Happy birthday to Jaime!! Hope she likes her cake. too bad you couldn't load her up on sugar and then let her head off to her Dad's! Ok, I have a little bit of a bad side going on today, but why lewt them miss out on all of the fun?

kat

[Yoyowife]

Karen,
Here's a thought on the neclace/whistle. Tell your DD that sometimes things are really special, and you only wear them on special occasions. Tell her that you will put it up for her for safe keeping. When she goes to vist daddy you'll let her wear it there to let them know how much she likes it. Tell her to be sure to blow it a lot to let them know how special it is!

Hugs, Yoyo

[Sugar and Spice]

Karen,
Here's a thought on the neclace/whistle. Tell your DD that sometimes things are really special, and you only wear them on special occasions. Tell her that you will put it up for her for safe keeping. When she goes to vist daddy you'll let her wear it there to let them know how much she likes it. Tell her to be sure to blow it a lot to let them know how special it is!
Hugs, Yoyo

Yoyo you and I are SO on the same page with this one. I wouldn't have it go missing because if there was thought behind it, thats what they are expecting. They do NOT expect you to let her wear it, let alone make SURE she wears it around them. I would tell that Daddy and OW would LOVE it if she would come up with a song for them while she is with them...

If they see her wearing it, it won't have the affect they were going for so hopefully it will stop. Sorry that they have to be passive/agressive f*cktards, but they are so just let them have their 2nd grade fun and be the better person. Sucks.

Have a GREAT TIME doing the cake with DD and Happy Birthday to her. Don't forget the Hooters Orange, in Kats honor! (((hugs)))

[whatdidido]

Cake time with your kids will be fun. I do that kind of stuff with my son all the time. It's a good "mommy thing". SOrry, your H and OW are like that. What can you do. Ignore them. You are not like them at all.

[karen43]

SOrry, your H and OW are like that. What can you do. Ignore them. You are not like them at all.

Yeah, they are so different! I focus on just getting presents that will make D9 the happiest, instead of trying to irritate H or OW. Weird way to live I think.

We went to D9's favorite restaurant for dinner last night: KFC!!! But she and even S15 like it so we did that. Then made a white cake with chocolate frosting and pink icing. It actually tasted better than I thought it would. My icing is getting better (it looked really bad on S15's) but this time it looked like I had just had a bunch of tequila shots (kind of wobbly looking) but you could kind of read it!

Yoyo and Corey, love the necklace/flute idea. I've put it on a shelf for "safekeeping" (and where I don't have to look at it or hear it) and plan to bring it out a little before she goes to H's for the weekend. I was thinking maybe about teaching D9 the 99 bottles of beer on the wall song, but maybe changing it to milk to be a little more pc? Still the longest, most annoying song I can think of. What a fun idea!!!

And the black velvet painting they gave D9 I put on the mantel I emailed H I put it there "in a place of honor." It's so ugly; it actually doesn't bother me and H can enjoy it when he's here. I guess it shows their taste in art (OW wrapped the gifts and probably helped pick them out).

Have to go to the L again! tomorrow after I already met with her 2 hours on Monday. She wants to meet before deposing H. Yuck! I won't be going at least. I hope he will pick up the kids Friday night and I will be somewhere else. You know my L is super nasty so I plan to avoid H as much as possible this weekend!!! Karen

[kat727]

You know I think he deserves your super nasty L going after his sorry butt!! He has been such a jerk to you for sooo long. He wants this and granted by the time it is all said and done, you may be wanting it to, but let him pay the price and don't feel guilty for one second. Hugs,

kat

[Sugar and Spice]

Kats right. He deserves it Karen. After all the crap hes put you through and now the gifts...its time someone gave him a bit of comeupance.

So what is this about a velvet painting? Did I somehow miss this?Is it a velvet painting of Elvis that cries? Is it a painting your DD painted?

BTW...your problems are not petty and I will always come by your thread, until you tell me not to. You, Kat, Lost, H4H, Michelle, Jeff, Puppy and all the rest have posted to me from the beginning. You've hung in there with in the calm and the drama, so I'll do the same for you. Thats what friends do. I'm a better woman because of all of you. So really, thank you.