Trying2Live-Post #5

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Well ya never know what he wants to talk about after New Years. Concentrate on 180 and meeting the EN's. If you think to hard on that stuff you'll LB when you see him.

For everyone, 180's are particularly important as sometimes the H's are watching us and really in a deciding mode as bad as that sounds. These 180's need to be changes that we truly implement not just for spouses but for ourselves. Hopefully they will be the ones to benefit from these 180's.

So as DR/DB mentions take stock, what is it that your spouses maybe complained about that maybe you kinda know this is an area you really wanted to improve anyways. It cannot be surface change, you've gotta put it into practice every time until it becomes a part of you.

Is it better listening, more femininity, stronger domestic, keeping yourself physically attractive, not being opinionated or always right, more open to recreational activities with spouse, what is it and only you will know. I know for myself I needed to improve my listening skills and curb my opinions and entertain the fact that on his opinions he may be right.

Even if the marriage comes together again and the 180's are not done its really going right back into what was and if you remember what was failed. I want new marriage and better marriage if it happens. And even if our marriages do reconcile you must keep up your GAL and all those things that make up the new you.

Keep 180'ing hard ya'll make those improvements and investments in you. See your self having a good time and enjoying your family and kids during the holidays. You don't want a fogged out H during the Thanksgiving and Christmas. You want your true spouses, so don't force anything. It's a really good time for the betraying spouses to take stock and to feel the repercussions of their actions. You don't have to do a thing and they are going to feel it.

Today I am going to sit down with the kids and plan Thanksgiving. It think were gonna back and make goodies the night before and maybe see a movie and decorate the tree on Thanksgiving, play some board games and have fun. I'm not going to focus, as much as I can with God's help, on my spouse not being there. I have kids and my kids rock and so do yours and they deserve and YOU deserve to have a beautiful Thanksgiving and Christmas. Take time nightly maybe when ya go to bed and just see your self enjoying Thanksgiving and Christmas you'll start to feel better and really look forward to it.

As far as I know my H won't be with us and yeah it stings a bit but doggone it I'm gonna enjoy things and plan things with the kids to ensure it. Life is big, it doesn't hinge on 1 person in your life. It can but only if you let it. I'm not saying its easy and Im not saying it doesnt hurt, but purpose in your mind to have the best time you can during the holidays okie dokie!

Plus its great for the betraying spouses to see you have such joy during this time. Laugh a lot, be confident and cheerful. I'm sure it rocks their fogged brain because life needs to hinge around them and how dare you have joy during Thanksgiving or Christmas.

I'll leave ya with this. God gives us all peace and joy, he is not a man that he should lie and he is not an Indian giver correct? So Peace and joy don't leave us we leave that place of peace and joy.

Have a great day guys! Go plan fun stuff for Thanksgiving!

Back later if I can.....