Hello all. Well here I am ready to make the move to piecing. I have been here dipping my toes in but I am wading now.
Link to old threads Calls But no Message Part 1 calls but no message part 2 calls but no message part 3 Vitals: Me 34 Him 36 WASO-December 27th Sit-Just about to be engaged He decides I do not respect him and was a TAKER and with that statement leaves. 12/27 to 4/20 No contact. I sent one letter 4/1 Get DB books 4/19 Before he contact I decide to give it up 4/20 He calls Went to LR 5/14 Went to LLR few weeks into LR during our first meeting With a twist, we agree to be friends. 5/14-7/31 In the friend phase. Only once a week phone contact by me. Convos are hour to 3 hours long. No R 7/8 I apologize. No response 7/17 We see each other for the second time. He is cold 7/25 I bring him his yearbooks for his bday. 3rd meeting 7/31 I go to his house for dinner. 4th meeting Brings me to piecing
This is only the 4th time I have seen SO since break in December.
I had a wonderful night with SO. I made fried chicken, mac and cheese, Peas, and a carmel dessert. Now I dont cook so this was a 180.
Just got home at 6:30am. He just moved into a new place on Monday and it is really nice. We sat and talked for a while like an hour or so. I asked if I could help unpack and he said *I did not have you here to unpack with me*.
Then we talked some more and he asked if I wanted some wine so we drank a bottle. And talked and then drank another bottle. Ate. Then it was getting late and I looked outside getting ready to go and it was storming out. He asked me if I wanted to stay. So I did.
And we started to kiss while laying down on his bed. It just went from there. I did say I missed you in the heat of the moment and he replied that he missed me too. Later I said it again and he said it back.
We slept very little. I could tell he was restless so I asked if something was on his mind and he said *everything and nothing.*.
Then we were togther once more before he went to work. He held me tight before he left and asked me if I wanted to sleep in since he was leaving then about 5:30 am. I said yes. On his way out he kissed me good bye. And said *Take Care* NO ILU from him or me. The TAKE CARE statement bothered me.
Then he came back up because he forgot the remote that he was going to leave for me in my car so I could get out of the parking garage. He came back into the bedroom and kissed me goodbye again. I said are you OK? He said I am nervous arent you? I said yes but you are really sweating. He said *well I did all the work! Also the condom this morning broke which has us both nervous
Some things bothering me. No ILU from him..He knows I only have sex if I am in love. No Lets try from him No asking me to come back over..no mention that this is going to happen again I am not a sex kitten in bed and the *I did all the work statement bothered me.
I did leave a note thanking him for having me over and said the place is great. VALIDATION I also said that I was sorry if he felt he did all the work but he was great. VALIDATION Then I said I was going to stop by the OB to get checked out to be on the safe side and I hoped this was OK with him. LISTENTING
Anyone comment here who has been in the sit of almost back and sex without ILU?
