It's so different in each state, which I find strange. Indiana is completely no-fault, and there's only a 60 day period from beginning to end (uncontested, of course; many things can delay it). There is no requirement for time separated.
Yes, I had a tremendous amount of resistance at first. After my first visit to the L, I vomited. But once D and I began trying to get by on $80 a month for groceries because H is playing money games, I got over it pretty quickly. It's amazing how much strength you can summon to survive.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012