I agree forgiveness is necessary at some point for our own sakes,not the WAW, but even that has to be furthur down the road. I worry that openly being WAW's best friend is betraying our own moral code especially when young children are involved. What example to we set to them. This is complicated and a very grey area. we need to show forgiveness,we need to keep a relationship going between WAW's and their children,we do not want to bad mouth or WAW's but neither to we want to convey that this acceptable behaviour.
I agree with this. While everyone loves to quote Jesus forgiving the adultress (and it is a beautiful story of love and forgiveness), He also said "Go and sin no more." If the sinner persists in their sin, yes, we are to forgive "70 times 7" times, but nowhere are we commanded to be their friends. Men are commanded to love their wives unconditionally, and women are commanded to respect their husbands unconditionally. But nothing is said about "friendship."
I think "civility and forgiveness and Christian love" is appropriate. Saying "I'm sorry to see you hurting" is good; saying "Tell me about OM/OW, and the problems you are having," -- that becomes emasculating to a man, and destructive to a woman as well, in my belief.
