I am wondering if I should give him from now to Jan 1 to find a house/apartment, and we will not tell the kids till after Christmas, but he will have this time to get the preparations made for moving.

Or if I just say, "You need to go ASAP, you chose that you did not want to be here."

Me-35

Together: 18 yrs
M-12.5 yrs
S-8
D-4
D'd: Feb. 2010

The LORD your God is with you,
he is mighty to save. --Zeph. 3:17