It hits so true when you stated that your H is: "deep, deep into the A, and it feels like love to him". Key word: "feels". So many people mistake "feelings" for reality - part of the reason our H's had affairs in the first place.
When they are so deep into that fog, it seems that most of the time they aren't reachable, at least reachable to us. The only thing real to them is the A and the OW.
Patience is key. I've been patient for over a year, and that, together with friends, family, GAL-ing and concentrating on my children has gotten me through.
When you're impatient, pray. When you're sad, mad, glad, bad - pray.
When bomb was first dropped, I became the queen of the snoopers -just obsessing about where he was, what he was doing, etc. My pastor pointed out how bad this was for me as a person - letting such negative thoughts rule my life. She suggested that when bad thoughts started, to pray instead of going w/the negativity. It took time and discipline, but I now apply that rule to all areas of my life, and it has made a huge difference for me.
I can tell you're strong woman, just concentrate on your life, it's the only one you have any control over anyway!
