Last year on the 17th my H moved out. 2days before that he told me "he was done trying, couldnt do it". He said he wanted to stay with us until after Christmas so "for the kids". That was on a Thursday night while I was in bed with high fever. I had to make a choice. My choice was to ask him to move out IMMEDIATELY, because the way I felt things were, we would have had terrible holidays anyway.
He did and at some point even tried to say I forced him out and didnt care about the kids as much, that I didnt have the proper patience. I havent regretted doing it. Looking back, the holidays was a crash test and I was quite relieved I had it behind me, holidays are my favourite season and it felt really bad to be by myself with the kids. Once that was over I felt I would get through anything.
Anyway, what I am trying to say is it doesnt matter what time of the year it is. It will still feel bad, for you and the kids. Maybe it will do him good to see how being a "homeless" father during holidays feels.
Ohh, and my H's "friend" was a good listener too...
Stay strong. Dan is not worth of your love for him. K
