At least you were able to get to your Daughter and bring her home safely.I am also very protective of my children and don't allow then to go off with certain people.
As for your friend, Ughhhhh!!! I recently had to end a friendship as it was sucking the life out of me. But it was for the best. No more constant text messages and guilt trips and all of the other stuff that went along with it.
Hope you day is blessed.
((((hugs))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Weeding of people who are not good for us is necessary. I recently did the same thing and I know I feel much better for it. Good luck with that and you did right thing with D9
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Cinders, I agree. It's sooooo much better to weed them out. I too went through this recently and also about 2 years ago, and it's MUCH more of a relief! You feel it's a good friendship, but you realize it's not once their contact isn't there anymore. Both of these friends would bash people like you wouldn't believe and it seemed funny and/or true at the time. But you realize they're just like that. I am much better a person without these 2 relationships anymore.
Well this friend of mine is just too sweet for her own good, she's always trying to please everybody and she's very insecure. She's not happy with herself in many ways. She was a good friend to me when I needed a good friend, but now she seems to (like you said BND) be 'sucking the life out of me'. I guess sometimes it is what it is.
H not being very involved with ow's grief....well, he didn't know her grandma for that long and I suppose it's quite natural if someone dies in their sleep at 80 years of age...I think that qualifies for having had a good and long life.
I was just greatful that he called me back and helped me out a bit. I think since a long time, I 'needed' him to do that. I think that he was glad to help me. He defends me as you would any loved one. I'm just glad we still have that.
So I got yet ANOTHER TM from that friend, saying it was her fault and she shouldn't have listened to a little girl etc. I sent a TM back saying 'D9 will apologize to you for her dramatics, I do not wish to discuss anything further.'
It has been quiet ever since. I have noticed that the quiet is good for me. Sometimes friendships become destructive and obsessive. I do not want that.
Thanks guys xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Friendships have to be mutual, which means that it is give and take. Unfortunately some just take, which is what I meant by being "sucked dry".
I think in some ways you and I are alike. We want to be there for people and help them and listen to them especially when they are going through lifes everyday challenges, and we end up becoming their caretaker and life support.
One of the things I learned through my H's MLC was to stop the unhealthy behavior before it destroyed me. Because the crisis was so traumatic for me, I have had to re-evaluate so many things in my life, including certain friends.
I still pray for them but I keep my distance.
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There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
To all those wonderfull patient men out there, this one is for YOU !
Going back to the corner where I first saw you, Gonna camp in my sleeping bag I'm not gonna move, Got some words on cardboard got your picture in my hand, Saying if you see this girl can you tell her where I am, Some try to hand me money they don't understand, I'm not...broke I'm just a broken hearted man, I know it makes no sense, but what else can I do, How can I move on when I'm still in love with you...
Cos if one day you wake up and find that you're missing me, And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I can be, Thinking maybe you'll come back here to the place that we'd meet, And you'd see me waiting for you on the corner of the street.
So I'm not moving... I'm not moving.
Policeman says son you can't stay here, I said there's someone I'm waiting for if it's a day, a month, a year, Gotta stand my ground even if it rains or snows, If she changes her mind this is the first place she will go.
Cos if one day you wake up and find that you're missing me, And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I can be, Thinking maybe you'll come back here to the place that we'd meet, And you'd see me waiting for you on the corner of the street.
So I'm not moving... I'm not moving.
I'm not moving... I'm not moving.
People talk about the guy Who's waiting on a girl... Oohoohwoo There are no holes in his shoes But a big hole in his world... Hmmmm
and maybe I'll get famous as man who can't be moved, And maybe you won't mean to but you'll see me on the news, And you'll come running to the corner... Cos you'll know it's just for you
I'm the man who can't be moved I'm the man who can't be moved...
Cos if one day you wake up and find that you're missing me, And your heart starts to wonder where on this earth I can be, Thinking maybe you'll come back here to the place that we'd meet, And you'd see me waiting for you on the corner of the street. [Repeat in background]
So I'm not moving... I'm not moving.
I'm not moving... I'm not moving.
Going back to the corner where I first saw you, Gonna camp in my sleeping bag not I'm not gonna move.
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
H just called me, he and ow are finishing off their kitchen in their new house...and so H won't be able to pick the kids up at school...he asked me if I could do that for him, and if he could then pick them up later at my house. I told him that would be no problem. I could hear ow in the back ground...urgh... just not nice to hear her I guess...
So, is anybody posting today ?
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
just not nice to hear her I guess...