I am going to take this a bit further... There are always answers. But very rarely these answers will satisfy us and give us closure. There comes a point when after we have Ali-analyzed everything, we grow with that we've got. If we get in to a "philosophical quest for the rights answers" we will never stop... Each answer can create another 100 questions and it will not alter the result.
Mish, if you read all the stories here you will get the same data. "We were fine bla bla bla and then the BOMB!!! Of course..., the last year we were ...fighting more, he/she was more distant, I neglected him/her, was too busy with work, deaths in the family, illnesses, NO ML, etc etc". The LBS gives pretty much the answers in his/her first post why all has happened. Something went wrong and neither one of the two had the insight to bring it up and deal with it when there was still time...
Breathe my sweetie. It's natural to go thorugh these in your mind right now, time will make it easier. xxx K
