Looking at the rest of my life with any clarity is a bit difficult right now - the constants that were there are gone - maybe i need to start revising how i think of the future now away from concrete things to ideas and ideals.
As for detachment - well i think I have reached a certain level of serenity and acceptance, I think I have a way to go to reach true detachment but I think there is little I can do to hurry this along - that's a time thing perhaps.
On the surprising W - I think the goodwill I show her surprises her and i think she expected me to fall apart when I moved out - I haven't.
I definitely have the power to create negative reactions in her!!! But thats a power I haven't exercised in a good while i'm pleased to say. On a more positive front recently I have managed to turn a few conversations round that started out with the potential for going downhill into more positive interactions and I have shown that I can have a positive interaction with her without being needy and weak - but strong and upbeat, business like but friendly - I think that this has surprised her.
KBO & TTFN! - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
