On the counselling - i did have a run of counselling sessions in the few months just after the bomb - although much of that was spent dealing with the very messy aftermath of the bomb and my desperate wish to try to pinpoint the cause of the situation we were in.
It got to the point where the counsellor herself almost as good as said that we got to a point where we had done what we could so they came to a natural stop.
I'm not really sure about the terms I would use to engage another counsellor or the kind of approach that would be best for me now.
KBO - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years