I am so sorry BBJ. I think your H sounds a lot like mine right now. I think my H has a huge hole in him that he has tried to fill with buying things and porn and right now ow (bfh).

I realize there is nothing I can do for him. Nothing anyone can say that he will hear. Until he figures that out and seeks and finds some help it is all futile. Thankfully I had to 2 years with an excellent C working on me that brought me to this place that I am able to accept this is how it is. As much as it sucks, it is just what it is. It really sucks for all of us.


Me 54
DS19 and DS17
Married 06/1989
Divorced 01/2011