I'm so sorry you are going thru this!!! But you are in the right place.
My H walked in on Sept.6, 2007 said he wanted a D, I had no clue anything was wrong with us. He also said the same night that he wanted to sell the house & split everything 50/50. He stayed here in the guest room for 5 months, that's how I found out about OW, I snooped. But, he got a real estate agent to come out & said he wanted it sold by the end of Nov. 2007. I was in shock, I had no ideal he wanted to sell that quick & I was still in shock about the D. He wanted everything over by the end of 2007, didn't happen! I got a lawyer, he told me whatever I did not to put the house on the market that he couldn't sell it right out from under me & with me not having anywhere else to go he said my H couldn't do that. So, of course I told him that my L said not to put it on the market, he was furious! By this time I had discovered OW but didn't let my H know it. I went for the house, I got it, 3 years of alimony, which he said he wasn't going to pay & he had to pay all attorneys fees, we went thru mediation for 9 hours, over 9,000.00.
I didn't want this, I still don't want this & I just keep praying for my H even tho he M OW that he didn't really know & moved to another state & now I understand they have moved to China.
Sorry I went so long but the reason I wanted to tell you part of my story is that I don't want you to be abandoned & no where to go, so go talk to a lawyer, most of them will talk or meet with you at no charge at first. Explain your sitch & let them advise you.
Hang in there!!! At least your H was pretty nice in the email.
