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[hope3343]

Hi Yoyo,
If you take a look at T2L stich she was using the Plan A/Plan B from "surviving an affair". A short synopsis of this is that once you get past the resentment of your H having an A, you will need to rebuild the Love Bank. The love bank is a term that is used for deposit of love and admiration. Most M when they split the love bank is usually empty. There is a quiz in the back of the book that helps you figure out your H's biggest needs, eg. Adminiration, Listening, Financial etc. Once you know the top 5 you try and use these needs to start your R over with your H. This is called Plan A. Set your goal for when you will be done with Plan A. It is really cake eating for the H. Once you feel that you put forth a good Plan A, then you go to Plan B. Basically it is a No contact with H. You set up a friend that will intercede for you to even talk about the children. Basically you give H a letter saying you can no longer accept OW and need her out of your lives and to rebuild the marriage. It is almost like the last resort technique in divorce busting. It is risky but it puts an end of waiting forever for your H to get off of the fence.
As I said check out T2L posts. She has executed a great Plan A and can give you more details.
take care