Should You Be Their "Best Friend"?

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I guess it comes down to whether you view adultery as an illness, or a moral weakness, doesn't it.

I don't think it is that simple.

5 years ago, my W was expressing her never ending love for me. Telling me that she would never leave etc. etc.

4.5 years ago, I went through a business failure, lost our house and in a lot of ways lost myself. It was a very traumatic experience for both of us.

4 years ago, while still sorting out and recovering from our financial mess W went to work for a company that put huge demands on her. This office was also staffed by younger single people including an open lesbian and a party girl who was D'd and had "experimented" and liked to brag about it.

3.5 years ago the party girl spent a lot of time trying to convince W that her life was better than family life.

3 years ago W has a one time affair with a woman and then tells me that she thinks she is bi-sexual. The woman was a friend of party girl and I'm sure that party girl influenced this. W also had a business trip with the lesbian the weekend before this happened. We got through it.

2.5 years ago W is telling me that she is telling her friends including party girl how happy she is.

2 years W has a business trip with party girl and then drops the bomb over breakfast a week later. A week after that she tells me that she is not sure. But she is living with party girl now who reinforces this lifestyle. A month later she is in an R with OW full time that is still going on roughly 20 months later.

So is she Morally Weak, Ill, Not over the financial meltdown, under a lot of stress or Under the influence of some very questionable people. Probably a bit of all of the above.

My very long point is that it is not simple at all. Certainly not black and white.