You say / Love is a temple / Love a higher law

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Michelle...
Wow, you have such a capacity to let things slide, its amazing. Does it wind you up at all he is like that with you? Are you a little bit curious as to what he is thinking/feeling? Or are you happy to be dating R and so, just not bothered about your H!?

You are a lesson in detachment my girl. Sounds like you are having fun anyway!
Al xxx

[MichelleLT]

I am definitely curious what is going on with him. Actually am starting to feel like we need to have a talk. Things can't continue like this, and he doesn't seem motivated to give the M a try, so I think I am going to ask him when he is going to file the D papers. I feel like things need a push, and I'm okay with whatever direction it goes.

[klm]

I wonder what is going on with him too. Asking him about the D would be a good push right now I think.

[GoingForward]

Do what you feel you need to do.

(((((Michelle)))))

[mishka422]

Ask him MIchelle. You need to get out of this crazy limbo one way or the other.

[jon2911]

So, you're still morally opposed to filing yourself, and you feel the need to pressure him into doing it? I don't see that accomplishing anything, just playing into his passive-aggressive deal. Or maybe I'm just cynical today

[jon2911]

Sorry, that sounded harsh. I would bring up the "M" word or have an R talk, but probably avoid the "D" word for now...

[MichelleLT]

I need to know what he wants.

I need to hear some things from him, so that I can decide what I want to do.

I feel like I'd need to give him another chance if he showed me he really wanted to make things work. But otherwise, I'm strong enough to be D.

I need to be out of limbo.

I need to be able to live my own life without having to think about him at all if that's what he wants.

[FLTC]

Michelle,

You know YOU. The whole idea behind DBing is to do what you can to save the marriage, but through GAL and detaching, to be ready for whatever happens, and knowing when YOU are ready to not go on with "limboland"

[MichelleLT]

And I am definitely to that point.

Time to have a talk I think. Now I just gotta see if we can do it in person or whether I should e-mail him...