Puppy, if MLC was declared a mental illness and put in to the DSM, would you still have trouble being a friend?
It may not be but it is very closely related. Depression and Bi-Polar disorder are often factors in this.
All I'm saying is that as much as this is hurting you, put yourself in the WAS's shoes. They are an emotional mess and going through much pain and turmoil. They are hurting as much as you. An affair is always a sign of a deeper problem.
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford