Tonight I was just about to sit down to my dinner and then head to my bible study when the phone rings and it's D14 telling me she needs to sleep at my place tonight because her mother just kicked her out. I asked to speak to STBX who came to the phone and told me the whole story from her perspective as D had already given me her version. Of course, STBX had not kicked her out but in anger told her that if she didn't like it here she should find somewhere else to live. STBX admitted that she would have handled it differently if she had to do it over again. Finally I spoke to D14 again and told her that she could not stay at my place, she and her mother had to work things out together. She asked what her mother had said because "she probably twisted it" and I replied "I'm sure she did twist it, just like you twisted it when you talked to me. The bottom line is that both of you are partially right and both of you are partially wrong and unless you want to live in an angry environment you have to work something out together" Finally, D threw the phone to her mom and walked away from the convo. So, I tried to empathize with STBX as D14 is a snarky little snot lately, in fact, I spoke to D14 about her attitude last night myself. Ah, the joys of parenting a teenager. Due to the snow, I could not get to my bible study as traffic was at a stand still so I called STBX and offered to pick up D11 at gymnastics. STBX had mentioned to me that she only had four hours sleep last night and was exhausted, I didn't feel it safe to leave her to drive through the snow to pick up D11. She then thanked me for doing this and I went to do the pick up. Afterwards I dropped her at STBX's, went inside and spoke to STBX for a few minutes, said goodnight to D11 and went to D14's bedroom to say goodnight. I took her in my arms and hugged her, kissed her cheek and said "I love you, I know how hard it is to be 14, it's a bitch ain't it!" she laughed and said "it will only get worse, Dad" and I replied "no it won't, you'll soon be 15!" so it seemed all was well, hopefully STBX and D had a little makeup session but who knows.
Lastly, Whatis behaved himself wonderfully at D's gymnastics. When I arrived there was this sweet little mom sitting alone and I know she kind of likes me so I said hello, chatted briefly...and went and sat somewhere else. I'm no dummy, been there done that and I ain't going back! The good thing is that six months ago Whatis would have been all over her like white on rice, like flies on....uh, you get the point. I would have been going for that validation of my manhood big time but times have changed, I don't need any problems nor do I need that validation as much. Oh, she kept looking back at me but I held my ground! I think I'm ready for the Priesthood, except I'm not Catholic.
Anyway, that's the exciting world of Whatis for this snowy evening.
Later Dbers.

Divorced February 27, 2012.

"Only by love is love awakened".~ Ellen G White