I don't get how that works, either, too me that would be way too difficult..."Hey let's have fun hanging out together, then you can go back to your place and have sex with ow????"
But I do remember a passage much like that from the book. One man said he stayed his wife's 'best friend', helped her pack her things, load the moving boxes, etc. etc. Was a shoulder to lean on, even let her vent to him when she was going through problems with her OM....eventually, according to the story, she realized that her husband was such an amazing guy to do all of that for her, and she left the OM and went back to her husband.
But my H said in counseling once that for me to "put up with" that type of thing made him view me as weak, not strong, so I don't quite know what to believe....
Even though i didn't carry it out well at the time, I am more a fan of the 'love must be tough' approach, where you say, OK you made a choice to leave, so bye bye....don't look to me for help anymore.
