She told me that, as well as, staying M, might in a away make him feel safe. Strange way of looking at it, I know. Be the better person & keep detaching.
MsM, I've thought that a LOT about my stbxW. I've been the granite that she could always count on not to fool around, to always love her completely. In fact, as long as I did nothing, she wasn't going to change because she had the best of both worlds.
(((Julia))) sorry I've been away. I try and stay in touch out in RL, you've got mail.
I would definitely say based on the behavior you describe that your H is cake eating in a way. Even though he isn't communicative and isn't spending time with you, he still is drawing some identity from being married to you and in fact it may make his OW more exciting. Since he is married, he has a perfect excuse for putting off making any commitment to her.
