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The golf lesson had been one of my highlights of each week over the last year. Last week, I re-signed up for another 18 at winter rates, but this time I am going just every other week. It will be nice to have an extra day free every other week for cuddling with GF40.

Have you ever tried a doppler radar launch analysis system? The demo center where I take lessons has 4 of those stations set up with Trackman units and they are really fun and great for learning and improving.

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RTL, Sorry you are going thru' this. Shows that D is not the best solution to conflict when there are children. The conflict and bad communication (call it abuse or whatever) continues. I know each time this happens it can be a nerve shattering experience. I think staying away from the drama as Kalni et all suggest is the way to go unless its a battle worth fighting. She will find its useless to attack you when she gets 0 response. Take care.

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Kerry,

My golf game has actually gotten much, much worse rather than better since the separation and divorce. My issues were at first focusing on getting the house ready for sale. After that, I've been so cash poor, I haven't played anywhere. I do have a range pass, but I've not used it and that is my fault.

As FG says, I need to "do work" if I want to improve. Otherwise, I would stay the same, which I don't like.

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fb2,

Thanks for popping by. I too think the less I give her, the sooner she'll figure it out.

I tried to get her to go to counseling about our issues before she filed for a D, but she wouldn't do it. I really don't think she wanted to change anything about herself. I honestly feel she's afraid of herself and what she'd find.

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You did great Rob. You didn't engage her on an emotional level--you'll never come out ahead doing that.

Here is a case where the court decree--even though it is unfair to you--protected you. She will try to take advantage at every opportunity, because it is all about her. You stood up for yourself and directed her back to the rules as they have been established. Good for you.

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Thanks, Nut.

I feel good w/ how I handled it w/ her and any subjective observer would be able to see her anger, attacks, and threats and the fact I was not doing the same.

I'll keep things light and continue to let the agreement keep things in line.

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Rob,
It seems like you drew an important line and did it with dignity. Hopefully your X will start to recognize boundaries. If you get a chance, take a look at my thread in 'Im Thinking of Leaving". I just started it , but will post more details soon.

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Hey, bizarre.

Thanks for your input. I'm pleased w/ how I've handled it thus far.

As for your sitch, I'll take a peek at it for sure for you. It may not be until this weekend, but I will look at it.

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