I'm glad you are here and posting. you'll find during this difficult journey that this is a very safe place for you to vent, get advice and make special friends.
You know sometimes there is nothing to analyse in correpsondence from our walk-away or MLC partners. Sometimes what they say or what they write is just what it is. What I see here is a man who know's he's hurt you and understands you are having to wear the lions share of responsibility for a family that he has usually helped you to support - but I don't see him wanting to do anythign to fix/change that - quite the opposite in fact. He's pretty brutal in letting you know that he's not going to be around and you're right, he makes some arrogant assumptions that look like he perceives you are still shattered about him leaving.
The best thing you can do Mrs JJJ is ignore this man your H has become, leave him out there in his own little bubble of self indulgence and make your life the best it can be. It won't be until he can see that you are happy, supporting yourself, unavailable to him and his antics that he'll be able to see you as a potential partner again.
Right now you need to focus on Getting a Life (GAL), having a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA), acting 'As if' and detaching from your H and his stuff.
I know that the 5 or 6 weeks you've gone without contacting him seems like an eon for you - but it may take 5 or 6 months for him to realise that he misses you. Keep up the no contact, he'll wonder what's going on with you eventually and contact you. Just remember that it will be on his time schedule - not yours.
You are doing well. Keep at it.
Last edited by Walkingback; 11/19/0811:30 PM.
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