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[SueS]

Hi everyone-

I can't believe it's been a week since my last post. Not a lot of activity at home. H has still been quiet. We took D4 out for dinner and some fun on Saturday night. We all had a good time.

My FIL had surgery yesterday and seems to be doing well. H is planning on going to help him for about a week as soon as he's out of the hospital.

I'll likely take D4 to my parents for Thanksgiving. H works on Friday & Sat., so there's no use in us being here and not being able to spend time with him. It does bother me to leave him, especially since I know that he's talked to OW, but I have to do what I want to do, which is spend time with my family. If H wanted to, he could go out anyway if I were here.

Speaking of going out, H did go out last Friday night. He went to a concert with a co-worker. I wasn't happy about not being able to reach him, but everything pointed to him actually going with the co-worker and he was home at a decent time and wasn't drunk.

Strange thing happened last night. H's uncle called. He's always had our numbers mixed up and always calls my phone instead of H's. I let him know that H was working. I've always liked this uncle and have always felt very comfortable around him and talking to him. He brought up my BIL & SIL and their situation. I tried not to say a lot, but we eventually talked about my MIL (passed 4 yrs ago). She and I were never close. I always felt that she didn't care for me and that she felt like I took her son from her, as she saw my job as the reason we moved out of state. Little did she know that her son desperately wanted away. I came to understand more clearly last night that it wasn't my imagination. My MIL had a very dark side that came out, not only to me. The uncle asked how we were. He said, Sue, I talked to H one of the last times you two were here. He told me that H had told him that he just didn't feel comfortable letting certain things out to me. His uncle said...H, that's crazy, she's your wife, you've been together for 18 years. You can tell her anything. You've been through thick and thin together, through hell and back...you know she'd understand. He said, that H said, Uncle, there's just some things from when I was a kid that no one will ever understand. He made a similar comment to me months ago when he was drunk. So Sue's not crazy. There is something very wrong from the past. The uncle said, Sue, I don't know what happened, but something happened to him when he was young that tears him up and he doesn't think anyone will understand. He also told me that when anything happened with/to the boys, my MIL kept it well under wraps. She wanted no negative light on her family, despite how small it may have been. She would have put her image ahead of her kid's well being. My MIL also had A's behind my FIL's back. Apparently she drug her kids with to see this man & even had him over at their house while FIL was at work. How sick is that. My FIL once told me a story about when my BIL was a baby. He said that my MIL asked......FIL, if we were in a boat that started sinking and you could only save one of us, would it be me or the baby (BIL). My FIL said, the baby. His life has just begun....you've been able to live part of yours. FIL said that my MIL was very offended that he wouldn't save her.

D4 has Pink Eye. Fun, fun. She's an angel most of the time, but the devil sure comes out when she has to get the eye drops. We caught it right away, so it's not a bad case. I stayed home on Monday with her and took her to the doctor. She's back at school and happy as a clam!

In this horrible economy, H is actually wanting to apply for a new job. A friend he used to work with is with a company that has an open position. If it worked, it would put him closer to home. They have great benefits and his friend really likes it there. However, what scares me is that this friend went through a horrible D and is the one that H wanted to live with at one time. I am told though, that the friend would be known to encourage people to work on the M's. He wanted to save his.

Well, time to get a few last things done and then off to pick up D4.

Have a good evening.

SueS