I try to every night, all in vain...in vain

[Sugar and Spice]

Thats right. I had gotten that book "Hes Just Not That Into You" a couple of months ago and read it and passed it around here at my office. The other day I found a HJNTIY book that is "your daily wake-up call" and I love it.

Here are some highlights:
"Men don't forget how much they like you. So put down the phone."
"A friend of mine was on a first date with a woman who mentioned she was also dating a married man. He immediately told her there wouldn't be a second date, because if she didn't like herself enough to be in a proper relationship, why should he?"
"A standard is setting a level for yourself of what you will or won't tolerate. You get to decide how it's going to be for you. You can now design the person you want to be in the future, and the standards you want to have. Make sure you know what you stand for and what you belive in."


Information that should be distributed to every OW/OM or people contemplating this behavior.

"Cheaters never prosper." (because they suck)
"I know things seem a lot eaiser when your affair is with a man whose wife if an evil, shrieking, insluting hag. No matter what their relationship or circumstances are, you are still helping a man cheat on his wife. Let's agree your're better than that."
"(The "But he's really a good person" excuse) This is no joke, and I'm not even going to try to be glib. You want love and you want to be loved and you think you've finally foiund it. But he's married. Please try not to ignore that fact. He's married to someone else. I know you're different, and it's different, but the fact it, he's still married. If there's only one red flag you are unable to ignore in your entire life, please make it this one. There's simply too much at stake for everyone involved."
"Unless he's all yours, he's still hers."
"Don't be THAT girl."

This one cracked me up!

"(The But I've Gotten Fat Excuse) I definately think you should lose 175 pounds - in the form of your loser boyfriend. His using your weight as an excuse for cheating is not only mean, but simply not valid. If he has a problem with anything in your relationsip, he's supposed to talk to you about it, not put-his-penis-in-a-strange-vagina about it."

Here are our five suggestions on what your man could have done if he was unsatisfied in your relationship. (You'll notice, none of them include sleeping with someone else.)
1. Talk about it.
2. Write about it.
3. Sing about it.
4. E-mail about it.
5. Even put on a puppet show about it.

Not in line with DB principles, but I liked these enough to share. Its a fun book and it made me smile, so all in all it was worth the $10 bucks I spent on it.