ok, I just tried to do some damage control with H.

Sent an e-mail saying that I know my emotions get the best of me sometimes but it is my Italian roots.
It was good to talk to you and catch up. You know that I will do everything I can to get your relationship started again with Colleen. She needs her Dad.
then the 180 bomb.... (T2L you encourage me with this stuff!@)
I am glad you did not stay here any longer. I did not want to be responsible if I threw you on the desk and jumped you. You still look good to me.... ;-) are you laughing?

H I am sure will be shocked, and if he tells the OW even in a negative sense eg. that I never wanted to sleep with him when i was in the M. it still has him thinking. And of course OW will get mad because I am coming on to her man! win-win situation.

Me 53
H 50
D16, D29
M 22 years
bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H
8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also
bomb II - H moves 10/1
expose ow 10/22
D to be final 9-09