Transfer your half to a new card and get your name off the old card. Talk with the credit card company, they likely have experience with how to handle this sort of thing. By all means, make sure the credit is frozen on the account.
First off I would monitor those cards close and make sure he's not out charging on them..I would also figure out a way to separate the debt..the easiest is to transfer half to another card only in your name..then have your name removed as primary on the old card maybe..
do the papers just say you both responsible for half the CC debt??
They say that he will get credit in his name for half of the debt and transfer the debt to that account. He didn't seem to see the problem in that even though he knows he can't get that kind of credit, especially now that he is jobless!
He doesn't have the cards anymore. He gave them to me when he moved out in December.
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try calling the CC company to see what they suggest,.. Maybe they will issue him a card and split half the debt if you fax them copies of the divorce decree signed by a judge?? They would know.. This happens to 50% of the people in the US..
GRRRRRRRRR......why does this get to me? Why does having to talk to him about Marc get to me? I guess it's because I don't like having to do any of this.
Gabe just called to tell me that he may have to work this Friday night so he won't be able to pick Marc up after school for his weekend. I told him to please let me know ASAP because I had plans. I really do! I am going to the singles group bible study that night and I'm pretty excited about it. From what I hear it's a wonderful bunch of people and some really good fellowship. I need that! There's even dinner involved!
He also wanted to know if I have plans for Marc on the day after Thanksgiving. I told him probably not because I'm sure I'm probably going to have to work. He wanted to know if he and the broom could pick him up and take him with them to one of those indoor inflatable slide places and then back to their place to set up the Christmas tree. Good grief! Apparently her son's birthday is about 10 days after Marc's (he's going to be 14 on 26NOV!).
Why am I feeling sick that he wants to take him to do "family" things with her? I know that's what is going to happen. I know it in my head but my heart is still sick about it. It still hurts too badly to see it happening.
Good grief!
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Why am I feeling sick that he wants to take him to do "family" things with her? I know that's what is going to happen. I know it in my head but my heart is still sick about it. It still hurts too badly to see it happening.
I'm sorry Mish..the reality is you guys are now divorced. There will be new people in both your lives and Marc will be introduced to many new people along the way. I wish I could tell you he won't be but he will..It is life..as long as Marc is treated with the respect he deserves then try to be at peace with this..it is hard and I feel your pain..
It's just really painful to watch Gabe playing "happy family" with the broom. I guess that's the problem, not so much that Marc is being exposed to it. I really think it's my own wounded pride. My head spins with so many thoughts all the danged time. Those questions I'll never get answers to.
Why wasn't I good enough? Why couldn't he just talk to me about how he was feeling? What could I have done differently? Why won't he tell me what I did wrong so I will never make the same mistakes? What is the point in any of this? What the hell is wrong with me?
Yeah, all those darned questions. Stupid.
I'm so wired from work tonight and now I can't go to sleep and have to be up in 5 hours. Oh yeah, going to just be lovely tomorrow! Thank God for makeup! Covers those black circles under my eyes really well.
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Unfortunately, there aren't a lot of real answers. Except, it's not all about you. It's not because there is something fatally wrong with you. And maybe, just maybe, it's because God knew you needed to be tested. And maybe that's the best answer you'll ever have.
Hope you are sleeping now sweetie.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
