No, not really. I have been in my full-time job for 8 years but I have no vacation time left and no sick time so I won't get paid if I'm off. The 2nd job is only a few weeks old so I can't really ask for a Saturday or Sunday off yet. Crazy days.
I'm really glad I didn't have to go to court too. My L was dying for him to argue about the child support so she could get the broom on the stand and rip her a new one in court. The broom has been involved in at least 3 other D cases my L has handled. She is a major homewrecker......oh, but she "loves him". Yeah, whatever.
I genuinely do hope that Gabe finds happiness one day, but it's going to remain elusive as long as he is relying on someone else for it. I'm not responsible for his crap anymore so I'm not going to be concerned for him.
My mom told me that he talked all the way to the doctor and back telling her what he's been doing, where he's been applying for jobs, that he almost moved back to CA but decided he couldn't be that far away from Marc, etc.. She said it was a little strange, she expected him to be extra quiet and a little awkward. Then again, he was always able to talk to my mom about anything. I guess it's good that he still feels comfortable enough with her to do that. His mom is on the other end of the country and isn't really in a good mental state either.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
OMG!!!!! I laughed so hard I'm crying! My mom was sitting here and heard the song. She wanted to know if I wrote it! She thinks I could have since it's an exact description of the broom! Of course, I KNOW where Gabe met her.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I'm looking for some advice from you guys. I'm sure someone has dealt with this issue. I alluded to it on klm's thread but though I would post more about it here and see what you all could offer by way of suggestions.
In our settlement we agreed to split the credit card debt in half. The problem with this is that Gabe has crappy credit (as do I thanks to our financial issues over the years) and can't get credit to transfer half of the balances to. My only other hope is that he will give me half of the payments per month. Of course, that won't guarantee that he will ever actually pay half of what is owed since he would only pay half the minimum and I always pay more.
Any suggestions?
Also, he has agreed to pay the car payment and Marc's karate for the next few months until he has to start paying child support. I have to hope that he actually follows through with the karate. I'm pretty sure he will pay the car payment since the loan is in his name only.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Are the credit cards in just your name or both names?
Ugh. I hate this crap. Maybe you could keep track of what he owes and how much he has paid (don't forget whatever interest they are charging monthly). Even if they are paid off because you paid more than the minimum he still owes half the bill. If he doesn't want to deal with you forever then he can pay it off quicker.
I hope it is easier for you to get money from your x than it is from me....if not good luck!
Are the credit cards in just your name or both names?
that's my question too..Joint credit cards or separate?? Thank god Kim and I had all our stuff separate....no joint CC's, no joint checking/savings..it was all separate..Cars in each of our names..
