In one of your early posts on your thread, you said that your husband refusing to stay on his anti-anxiety meds was absolutely a "dealbreaker" for you.
My question for you is, Is that not "controlling"? How is your stance on that any different than my stance on not being willing to have a 100% no-contact/transparency plan in place also being a "dealbreaker?"
As to whether or not you're "attacking" me, I'll let others be the judge, based on what I've posted to you, and what you've posted to me. Again -- your issues, not mine.