I hear ya Pup. The thing is, I've asked her a number of times the last few months (but not for a month or so) if she's talked to OM. And her reply is always, "I haven't talked to him in months". I've told her more times than I can count that the only way we're going to have a chance is if she never sees or talks in any way to him.
So what good would it do to pressure her into agreeing to something that she claims is in place anyway? If she's truly NC, then me demanding NC would just push her the wrong way. If she's NC with an occasional email/IM chat, she's not going to tell me anyway, so I'm just not sure what good it would do to say it.
Because, that is playing with fire. I have agreed with you, for practical reasons and based on how well YOU have been able to handle it (trust me, you are RARE -- most would crumple after 3-5 months). But I was basing this new hard-line stance solely on the potential new reality of them working at the refinery together. If that doesn't happen, I could be persuaded that the "implied no-contact contract" that you are your wife are under is workable. But her weekday mood swings still concern me, and the thought of both of them at the work location together would be a dealbreaker, if it were me.
Then again, it's NOT me, and I understand and respect that you have to do what you feel is best. I'z just callin' 'em as I'z seez 'em.
