Maybe I should be in piecing part 3?

[Hope4us]

I hear ya Pup. The thing is, I've asked her a number of times the last few months (but not for a month or so) if she's talked to OM. And her reply is always, "I haven't talked to him in months". I've told her more times than I can count that the only way we're going to have a chance is if she never sees or talks in any way to him.

So what good would it do to pressure her into agreeing to something that she claims is in place anyway? If she's truly NC, then me demanding NC would just push her the wrong way. If she's NC with an occasional email/IM chat, she's not going to tell me anyway, so I'm just not sure what good it would do to say it. It just seems that me demanding something she already claims is in place would reinforce to her that I'm controlling. That's why I was thinking if (only if it comes up with her balking at moving) she questions me as to why I want to move, that I tell her it's for MY healing. Take the pressure off of her.

I know you disagree, but I need to play this the way I think would work best in my sitch. Don't know which way I'll go yet. May be a game time decision based on how she reacts the next day or so when I get more details on the timing, how she feels about a mid school year move vs. an end of the year move.