About you leaving people info to let us know if 'you are gone', I actually wrote up a document called 'arrangements' after the first little boy at our school lost his dad 6 weeks ago.
I saved the doc. to my desktop at school. It lists flowers, songs, Bible verses, casket color, etc. in case something happens to me.....I don't think people in shock and mourning should have to figure that stuff out themselves. Maybe I am just morbid...
