I've tried that "you can never have contact with him again" route and she just saw that as me controlling her. She isn't as smart as the people on this board that know that NC is the only way we'll ever have a chance.
You're both 14 months into this, H4U. Isn't it high time she learned that??
What she then decides to DO with that knowledge is completely up to her, but she seems to me to be forever driving 70mph thru the 55mph zone, and it's no longer OK for her to simply say "I didn't know," nor is it for you to let her off that easy in her ignorance.
