(((((Kalni, Mishka, WCW))))) She won't let me tell her, sometimes it is hard to remember. But when I wrote it I knew it belonged.
She's feeling quite a bit better tonight, though she is still clearly not well. So, at least for now, I am planning on Thursday. There's no way I'd give her this on an evening when she has to work the next day. I rather expect it will disturb her sleep.
(((((Kalni, Mishka, WCW))))) She won't let me tell her, sometimes it is hard to remember. But when I wrote it I knew it belonged.
She's feeling quite a bit better tonight, though she is still clearly not well. So, at least for now, I am planning on Thursday. There's no way I'd give her this on an evening when she has to work the next day. I rather expect it will disturb her sleep.
Jeff, I sense some change in your emotions or your honesty with your emotions concerning your W. Writing this letter has been good for you!
Your W is a champ at putting up boundaries and enforcing them. She won't 'let you' tell her you love her. SO, what will she do if you tell her anyway? wash your mouth out with soap? make you sit in the corner? not sleep with you and withhold sex? assign extra chores for you to do? She is an Ice Queen surviving in her thermal insulated world. In your easy going way you've allowed her to set the rules and you have abided by them. Now you're turning the heat up and she is going to get quite uncomfortable. Expect rebellion from her and tension between you, but I don't think she will lose much sleep over it. Not yet over one letter. You'll have to keep the heat on. Fortunately you live in a warm climate! (((Jeff))) Chin up.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
(((((Kalni, Mishka, WCW))))) She won't let me tell her, sometimes it is hard to remember. But when I wrote it I knew it belonged.
She's feeling quite a bit better tonight, though she is still clearly not well. So, at least for now, I am planning on Thursday. There's no way I'd give her this on an evening when she has to work the next day. I rather expect it will disturb her sleep.
Jeff, I sense some change in your emotions or your honesty with your emotions concerning your W. Writing this letter has been good for you!
Your W is a champ at putting up boundaries and enforcing them. She won't 'let you' tell her you love her. SO, what will she do if you tell her anyway? wash your mouth out with soap? make you sit in the corner? not sleep with you and withhold sex? assign extra chores for you to do? She is an Ice Queen surviving in her thermal insulated world. In your easy going way you've allowed her to set the rules and you have abided by them. Now you're turning the heat up and she is going to get quite uncomfortable. Expect rebellion from her and tension between you, but I don't think she will lose much sleep over it. Not yet over one letter. You'll have to keep the heat on. Fortunately you live in a warm climate! (((Jeff))) Chin up.
(((((WCW))))) She asked me (told me?) not to say ILY. So it doesn't seem to be a good idea on a regular basis. You are right, I let her get away with it.
I think the letter will bother her for a short time, but she will blame it on me. That's what happened the time I tried to kiss her, and she equated it to attempted rape. She was mad the next day because I'd made her lose sleep when she worked the next day. She is the Ice Queen.
What an awesome letter! Here's what everyone told me when I wrote my letter (although mine was MUCH different). NO EXPECTATIONS! While a letter like that would likely make most women weepy, sorrowful, and run into your arms begging forgiveness, and wanting to make the marriage better, etc... You CAN NOT expect ANYTHING. She may read it and toss it, even though you asked for a response. She may run for the hills. But, you are taking a leap of faith in giving this to her. This letter is as much for you as it is for her. Praying for good results...
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
