Hi Dawn...thanks for your experience and input..hijacking??? no way...
I found out there is a conncection between H's L, H's coworker (man), and the Elk's club....I hear they do favors for each other....maybe, the retainer was waived until/if things get 'rolling'...
Today I am telling myself....another day on my record for no contact, response....and detachment!
My mom deposited money for the L's retainer....now we just have to file an answer by Dec. 3....
Yesterday, I was mostly irritated that H put on this, as if it is a thrill ride and wasted $200 of my money.
If H isn't in a hurry and his papers were only to 'get the ball rolling' so to speak...why do it when S13, AND S10's birtdays are within the next two months AND.....CHRISTMAS.
More reason for me to believe H is dillusional and acts irrationally with a sound mind.
Just venting out of frustration...
Sophie
~~ Me-50 H-38 Married 15 years 8/7/08 D8 S10 S13 H affair 11/04-7/04 maybe longer H moved out 4/06
7/30/08- present: Reconnecting w/kids,friendly 10/30/08 H signed D papers 11/10/08 D papers filed 11/13/08 D papers served at home