I would just like some advice on how to handle the little things, since I do believe it's really NOT one big thing that happens but rather the little stuff that a person finally just says enough is enough and since I am in this for the long haul I would like to know how I could do better.
I agree that the little things can add up to put you over the edge. I wish I knew the answer to that problem as well. Some may not agree, but I do think that at some point in this process, we have to be able to start communicating some of our thoughts with our spouse. If we hope to have a restored marriage, we have to be able to communicate without the help of a C. Could you let your H know that you would appreciate it if he did somethings?...or didn't do somethings?
I asked my H if we could make a goal of daily communication. He didn't want to agree to it but so far has talking to me daily. I don't know if it will continue but even if it doesn't, I don't think any damage was done by asking.
Money issues are always tough and yours is even tougher since you have been supporting the family. If you do give your H the money he needs, would this will give you an opportunity to discuss future financial plans? I know easier said than done...especially if your H doesn't follow through.
