Trying2Live-Post #5

[marisol35]

Hi Ladies!

I'm also curious about what TxMom asked....have any of you paid for coaching sessions and what was your experience? Hope it sounds like you have.

Hope I'm concerned about your C. I mean he may be looking out for your best interests but then it would have thrown me off as well for him to suggest a PI to protect yourself.

How are you doing T2L? We haven't heard from you!!

How is it going All? What did you decide to do?

Today is my 1st dance class! I'm excited and looking forward to it after work.

I do have interesting news for you all and please feel free to lend your thoughts on this.....

OK so last week H out of the blue asks me if I am in a relationship with his cousin. His cousin was the best man at our wedding. For some unknown reason he thinks we are together but we are not. Neither his cousin nor I have shown him any reason that we are together so its almost like jealousy or something has taken over his logical thinking. Anyway I told him whether I am or not is none of his business because he made his choice and is living his life and I am doing the same. I never told him that I was or wasn't. I in fact called his cousin to let him know that he thinks we are together and I also told his cousin that I didn't know where he got this from nor that I have said anything to make him believe this. His cousin was shocked as well.

So that was Tuesday of last week. Yesterday he emails me about our D16 and when will she ever talk to him. I told him she is just not ready yet but that its important for him to show her as much as possible how much he misses her and loves her. Then later at 8pm he texts asking if we were home. We were not so I told him we were not home and at a friends house. He says he was in the area and his son wanted to see where we lived. That makes me wonder but I just don't think twice about it. Then he texts again at 9pm asking about Thanksgiving. I tell him we will be out of town. He asks where and I tell him. He says it looks like it will just be him and his mom. I don't respond to that and I just let him know that I talked with D16 and that I will do what I can to let her know how much he misses her. He thanks me and that was it. Then I get a text at 1130pm from him asking who I am dating these days besides his cousin. I could not believe it. I waited a bit and responded (which I probably should not have) its not about dating its about meeting people and discovering who I am. Then he starts demanding the truth and why can't I just tell him if I did or didn't. I told him that if I said I did it would ruin his relationship with his cousin and if I said I didn't he would just call me a liar because he already believes I did. I ended the conversation and told him he should focus on his life and not on if I am with his cousin or not. THEN I get an email this morning with the subject line saying "Yes or No!" I do not plan on responding to his email.

So tell me ladies why the sudden interest who I am dating and why does he care if I did or didn't have a relationship with his cousin (which I have not). He is confusing me. Regardless why is knowing so important to him. What difference will it make? He wants a D.

How should I respond if I should even respond to something like this?