So Huge fight but my w shared how she was feeling. Even though it was while she was yelling and telling me maybe I should leave, she still expressed her feelings for once. She felt trapped and underappreciated while I was in school. She had to work her normal job then take care of the kids at night. She felt like a single parent. Like I said myself I was not the best husband during this time. I did not do a lot of things I could have like house cleaning, and other basic day to day stuff. I really did neglect her and take her for granted, I have admitted this and take responsibly for my actions. This is what let to her leaping for single life when she got the chance. I look at like a pengelum, it was swung so far one way that it swung far to the other. She went from the cooped up under aprecied wife to the sexy going out all the time not loving her husband. Now I am not excusing her behavior but I do understand it. It is a base point that if she wanted to we could work from. I am changing myself for the better into a better husband, father, and me. This may not save our marriage but at least I will be better off. I know how she feels, that is a step. Our fight was about the fact that I lost my job recently. I have not been able to find a new one. We got into a huge fight last night about how she is supporting the family and I need to get a job (and I do). It is just one more thing she can point to and say “See, see he is bad, I am good”. Even though is it bad right now and she is very pissed off at me for the fight I do feel better knowing how she feels. What her thought process is. Does that make sense to anyone?
