(((Ms M))) So did Jody mean that you should stay married as long as possible? He hasn't brought up divorce at all...
(((Lisa))) I didn't need it this morning, I woke up feeling good. I think that was from having such a fun evening last night but I will try it next time I wake feeling rubbish. Glad you got a flirty text; I still think that text to CEO last night was so funny. I reckon he would have chuckled!
(((Ali))) The mortgage is in joint names so he is legally obliged to pay. The bills I had considered offering to pay as he is not using any of the electricity etc. but that was before he moved into his flat with no discussion with me. If he had engaged with me I would have engaged back (and you can't say I haven't tried my hardest to engage him) but he didn't so in my view he can keep paying. When I said I had thought of taking on the bills to Jody she said 'bet your glad you didn't now', after me telling her about him moving in with ow. She is right; he needs to feel some consequences or at least keeping him paying may make him move out of this holding pattern eventually. Plus, it must be pissing off ow which helps my PMA a little. When he mans up and talks to me I will be amenable, until that time he can live with the consequences of his actions.
However, I will reassess this soon as I want to get out of the house. But I am willing to wait a little longer and give him the chance to man up. Maybe I sound angry? maybe I still am a bit but I see no rush to change things at the moment. I am tired of making all the effort.
