I want her to be with me when things are going well not just when things are a bit off and she wants to get back to the status quo.
Powerful statement. Status quo is the way you feel your life has been for a long time, yes? From what you've written status quo is good, yet not moving forward. And I'm not trying to say it's not good, but from the tone of your writing, status quo is getting old.
Yes, its getting old. I'm not frustrated or anything I just want to move on. I want to be able to express how I feel towards her without feeling like I am pressuring her or that I am overstepping my bounds by doing it. I want to know if she has some sort of romantic feelings toward me. That in itself would be nice to know. I want to be able to hold her and kiss her if I want without feeling like I shouldn’t
Originally Posted By: whiskey.tango
What was planned for the kids when you two scheduled your date? How did that change?
Nothing was planned for them. They are old enough to stay home alone. However my D and her friend went to the play we were going to go to and I can't leave my S home alone when he has a friend over. It was not something that was planned it just happened and threw a monkey wrench into my plans thats all.
Originally Posted By: whiskey.tango
I'm trying to phrase this properly, has your W mostly put the children before your M? I recall earlier threads that mention this issue and it seemed to frustrate you.
Yes, always and I told her this a while back that is one of the things that made me angry. I was never put first in her book and it seemed the only time I was put first was in bed. It was the kids, your work, the house and then what was left was for me and that never seemed to happen.
Originally Posted By: whiskey.tango
I just deleted a whole thought about that playful punch in the arm because I answered my own question. It was at night. I agree if you asked she would have given you more - but she's not going to initiate night contact. Wish she'd go to MC, it's one of the ways to really get this moving forward. Until then, keep doing what you do. You are consistent and positive.
Are you doing OK?
Whiskey!
I agree with the night contact but not sure how I should breach the subject. And with MC I could not agree more. Have stated that over and over again. I'm trying to find a way to bring up the subject and get her to go. We just need to learn to communicate and get past this rough spot. I feel we are so close but it seems neither of us knows how to get that done. I see so many positive things from her and sense some good feelings but its hard to know exactly what to do or say. A MC could solve that issue if only…….
Other than that I am good. Very busy but not stressed like I was eight months ago at the other job and with my home life. Both are so much better and it makes it easier to keep myself centered.
How are things with you? Gotta love this cold weather.
