I think one reason Amy is doing as well as she is at this moment is the fact she has a very important "goal" that she was working toward and now, she is experiencing the victory and "flying high" with the great feeling of acomplishment. I kind of laughed to myself, not at you Amy, but it is so typical for LBS in these stitch when they really begin to detach---that what seems like has been a looooong time has been about four or five days.....but hey, that is quite an accomplishment for a gal who in the beginning was crying and saying, "It's too hard and I can't do it!" There is another LBS that I wished I could reach b/c she makes me think of you by saying things like that. Only I think you had more spunk and pride. I am trying hard to get her to see that she can do it and MUST do it if she is going to survive.
Okay....the WofA. Well, you know, I tried to tell my H that one time and he looked at me like I had lost my mind. I mean, he sees me as some giant strength that can do anything and it never crosses his mind that I need to hear him say those words of affirmation to me. I told him that I was not that way with all things at all times and how he felt about me and what I did and how I did it meant more than anyone else's opinion. But, he just didn't get it. So, I suppose I will have to learn to live without it. My poor sister has had too b/c her sorry a$$ H would die before he ever gave her a crumb of a compliment. I do wished I was better at it than what I am. I'm not sure what my H's LL is. I notice he always does some work or deed to make me feel better, so I think that might be his. It use to make me mad to work my butt of all day when the kids were little and it acted like it would turn him on! I thought he was a pervert! (LOL) Not really, but needless to say, I did not feel like having sex after working myself half to death.
Well, find you another goal to start consentrating on b/c I think for a while, that is your ticket to stay detached. It keeps your mind busy and that is very important. Now, don't you feel good about yourself? I knew you would. And, if truth be known, I bet you can see where if the worse comes, you will be able to survive without your H in your life. I know it wasn't what you wanted, but now at least, you won't fall down into a puddle of tears with no hope for a future. Somebody is sure going to be lucky to find you.....but I hope you take it long and slow so you want fall into any rebound stuff. Listen at me! Man, I can get off into a tailspin!
Love ya, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
