thanks for your response. I have been thinking long and hard about doing my little "Good Mornings" for quite some time. the mood hit me one Satutrday morning as I was sitting all alone. So I sent it. No harm no foul. Two words, simple. i didn't get a response and I didn't expect one. Following Saturday i did almost 12 hours later. I don't thnk she delayed it, she has real bad service where she is staying. My point is simply this, she responded to two words. I had text her 2 days before when I tested the waters and asked if she'd been thinking about us. No reply, nothing ventured, nothing gained. AmyC warned me, but I tried it. she mentioned the question I text her to my younger D, she knew damn well she'd tell me that. She answered it. did i get the answer to my question, yes. 2 months ago I tried this, nothing hurt like hell. Not today. glad she responded, not turning cartwheels over it.
I am in a very strong position right now. I have found great strength on this board and have received very good, consistent and supporting advice that has made me realize the situation for what it is. I agree tha tI have to have something therenow after being absent, visibly and emotioally for a while. I took down her pictures, packed up the rest of her clothes and have not seen her face in over 3 weeks. She appears to be failing on herself. She hasn't hit bottom yet, which I believe is close to happening. I am not throwing her lifelines, sending her love notes, nothing other than "Good Morning". I did not reply to her reply. I want to see if I can establish something using these two words. make her get up on Saturday mornings and check to see if i sent it to her. It is not badgering or pestering or pursuing. I know how she thinks or at least how she used to. I know how she will process this and I know her response to seeing the text. Her big thing will be Why?. that is what I want. Her to wonder why? I am also interested in seeing who responds and what advice they can offer. The best advice is coming from the women who left and went back and they can tell not exactly but generally if you are doing something moronic or something that may have a benefit. So we shall see.
